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“Larry, I am so, so sorry about Sandy's passing.I know we haven't seen each other in a very long time, but, she was a wonderful, fun and generous...Read More »
1 of 32 | Posted by: A friend

“My deepest condolences to Sandy''s family. I have known Sandy through weight watchers. She always had the greatest outlook on life. I will never...Read More »
2 of 32 | Posted by: Sharon Shenberg

“I had the pleasure of working with Sandy as a fellow COTA for several years, she was truly one of the sweetest, most caring, and empathetic people I...Read More »
3 of 32 | Posted by: Genni Kauke

“Our deepest sympathy to all the Dower family. We first met Sandy via the many committee meetings held at their home for the local Boy Scout Troop -...Read More »
4 of 32 | Posted by: William "Sandy" and Frances Rodgers

“Dear Larry,John,Debbie and Cindy;Just wanted to tell you all what a pleasure it had been being Sandy's hairdresser for probably 30ty years. I always...Read More »
5 of 32 | Posted by: Eileen Fish - Indian Trail, NC

“I remember Sandy as the no nonsense youth group mom with a heart of gold. She was always very sharp and witty and there for you when you needed...Read More »
6 of 32 | Posted by: Ryan Bachiochi

“John, Larry and all the Dower family - We were all very saddened to hear of Sandy's passing. She was a wonderful woman and I'm know she will be...Read More »
7 of 32 | Posted by: Ben & Bobbi Rodgers - Nolensville, TN

“To the Dower family, My sincere condolences on hearing the sad news of Mrs. Dower's passing. I will remember her fondly for her sweet and gentle...Read More »
8 of 32 | Posted by: Patty Watts

“, Larry and family we are so sorry to hear about Sandy's passing. Please know that we are praying for all of you in your time of grief. She is now...Read More »
9 of 32 | Posted by: Jim and Nancy Dunker

“My sincere condolences.... I will always remember Mrs. Dower's beautiful smile and dimples along with her kind words--quick to always ask how others...Read More »
10 of 32 | Posted by: Carolyn McCauley Hussey

“Sandy was a wonderful person. Enjoyed seeing her at Weight Watchers. Her smile and energy brought joy to all of us who knew her. ”
11 of 32 | Posted by: Joan Charron - Ellington, CT

12 of 32 | Posted by: Joan Charron - Ellington, CT

“We mourn with you. Heaven has gained two beautiful souls. ”
13 of 32 | Posted by: Vin McCauley Jr

“Met Sandy at WW and knew from the start that she was so very special. I could see that she was a kind soul without one mean bone in her body. ...Read More »
14 of 32 | Posted by: Lucie Mulligan - Vernon, CT

“Sorry for your loss may you draw comfort from Hosea 13:14. L Ohio ”
15 of 32 | Posted by: A friend

“I had the pleasure of meeting Sandy earlier this year at Weight Watchers. I was impressed with her attitude and outlook and could tell she was a...Read More »
16 of 32 | Posted by: Peter Jasinski

“Larry and family,Sandy was a great lady. Even though we only saw each other at the Annual Vermont party and possibly a couple of graduation parties,...Read More »
17 of 32 | Posted by: Betsy Finsterwalder - Cortland, NY

“I am so sorry to hear. I will always remember Sandy as a kind and caring woman with a beautiful heart. My thoughts and prayers to her family. ”
18 of 32 | Posted by: Elaine Violette - Niantic, CT

“Our condolences to you and your family on the passing of your sister It is never easy to lose a sibling, no matter your age. I pray for your peace...Read More »
19 of 32 | Posted by: Linda Butera and Family

“Sandy was a very special person to me. She was very kind and compassionate. What a wonderful person and a great lost to all of us. God bless you...Read More »
20 of 32 | Posted by: Joe King

“I did not know Sandy. But have so often read Ed's loving boasts about his wonderful sisters. So to Ed and all of Sandy's family may I say that Sandy...Read More »
21 of 32 | Posted by: Jackie Lyons

“Eddy and family I just heard about your sister and just wanted to send my condolences.. My prayers are sent along with you and your extended family...Read More »
22 of 32 | Posted by: Debby wohlgemuth

“My prayers are with you, family & friends. ”
23 of 32 | Posted by: Sandra Martinik - Newington, CT

“Cindy and family,Sorry to hear about the passing of your mom. Thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time ”
24 of 32 | Posted by: Heather Mulrooney - Manchester, CT

“So sorry for the lose a beautiful person. ”
25 of 32 | Posted by: Stephen Fitzpatrick - Dennis Port, MA

“I am posting for my wife Marge(Wittenberg) who is Sandy's cousin and presently in upstate New York(along with her brother Fred Wittenberg). Marge...Read More »
26 of 32 | Posted by: Brian Slywka

“Larry and family we are so saddened to hear of Sandy's passing. She was the kindness person I know and the best neighbor. I will miss chatting away...Read More »
27 of 32 | Posted by: Cindy Hays

“I am heartbroken and I can't believe you are gone Mama D! I'm going to miss you sooo much! You gave awesome hugs and I look forward to the day that I...Read More »
28 of 32 | Posted by:

“Deb and Family, I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. ”
29 of 32 | Posted by: Kelly (Anderson) Fongemie

“So sorry to hear of Sandy passing.Shew was a wonderful wife,Mother and friend. I had the pleasure of working with her for a few years ,so dedicated...Read More »
30 of 32 | Posted by: Pat Urso

“I had the pleasure of working with Sandy for many years. She was truly a sweet and loving light in this world. She will truly be missed. My...Read More »
31 of 32 | Posted by: Fionna DeFeo

“Sandy had the most beautiful soul of anyone I have ever met. She always made you feel as though you were more important than anyone else while you...Read More »
32 of 32 | Posted by: Kathy Muska - coworker

Sandra “Sandy” Jean (Shanks) Dower, 71, beloved wife of Lawrence ”Larry” Dower, of South Windsor, passed away peacefully with her family by her side at Yale New Haven Hospital on August 2, 2017. Sandy was born in Boston, Massachusetts on May 14, 1946 to the late John and Mildred (Eis) Shanks. She grew up in the Boston area and married her high school sweetheart, Larry. They moved to Vernon where they spent over 30 years lovingly raising their family, before moving to South Windsor, enjoying another 15 years together, always surrounded by wonderful friends. Sandy spent much of her life caring for children, not only hers, but also others, and loved them all dearly. She later received her Associate’s Degree from Manchester Community College, and began working as a Certified Occupational Therapy Assistant. Sandy was an active parishioner of St. Bernard’s parish in Rockville. She joyfully served in many capacities within the church family she loved so deeply. Her family and friends were her greatest treasures and her door was always open with a warm hug, a kind and caring heart, a listening ear, and a cup of tea. She is survived by her loving husband of 49 years, Larry Dower; her son, John Dower and his wife, Lisa of New Canaan; her daughters, Deborah McCleary and her husband, Gregory of TN, Cynthia (Dower) Kiernan of South Windsor; her brother, Edward Shanks and his wife, Sharon of FL; sisters Roberta Shanks, and Dorothy Fitzpatrick, both of MA; her beloved grandchildren Grace, Evan, Morgan, and Bobby; and countless dear friends. A Mass of Christian Burial is scheduled for Tuesday, August 8, 2017 at 11 AM at St. Bernard’s Church, 25 St. Bernard Terrace Rockville, CT 06066. Burial will follow at St. Bernard’s Cemetery. Sandy’s family will receive friends on Monday, August 7, 2017 at Ladd-Turkington & Carmon Funeral Home, 551 Talcottville Road, (Route 83) Vernon, CT from 11 AM -1 PM and again from 4:30 - 7:30 PM. At Sandy's request please consider wearing bright colors while attending the celebration of her life. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations in Sandy’s name may be made to St. Bernard Church, 25 St. Bernard Terrace, Vernon, CT 06066 or The Smilow Cancer Center, Yale New Haven Hospital, P.O. Box 1849 New Haven, CT 06508-9979. For online condolences and directions, please visit