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“In loving memory of a wonderful person. My Mom (Charlotte) will show you the ropes. Prayer for friends and family. ”
1 of 16 | Posted by: Deborah Cartelli - Killeen, TX

“May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived. ”
2 of 16 | Posted by: - Ellenwood, GA

“your service reflected the love all of you had and have for mel--i will remember him chuckling at his stories--my love especially to cheryl ,the...Read More »
3 of 16 | Posted by: maryjane atkins - bloomfield, CT

“So sorry for your loss. Mel will be missed. Hugs and prayers for your family. Bob and Marion ”
4 of 16 | Posted by: Bob and Marion Barry - CA

“We are so sorry to hear about Mel. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. ”
5 of 16 | Posted by: Finn, Tina & Elin Frsund

“So sorry to hear about Mel's passing. He will be missed so very much. Love across the miles. Spike and Liz Brandt ”
6 of 16 | Posted by: Liz Brandt - Palmdale, CA

“Dear Cheryl,Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Mel was a very kind and thoughtful man. Please accept my verydeepest sympathy. I hope...Read More »
7 of 16 | Posted by: A friend

“I am so sorry for your loss. I worked with Mel at Wood Group and he always impressed me with his knowledge about everything. He will be missed. ”
8 of 16 | Posted by: Daniel Stepanek - Bloomfield, CT

“May God's loving kindness comfort you and help you through this sad time. Psalms 29: 11. ”
9 of 16 | Posted by: A friend

“Cheryl,We are so sorry to hear about the passing of your wonderful husband Mel. We have always loved his friendliness and enjoyed our times with him...Read More »
10 of 16 | Posted by: Hope and Kenny Noar - Cary, NC

“Cheryl....we are so terribly sad to hear the news about Mel. He was an amazing person in many ways and we want you to know that our hearts are with...Read More »
11 of 16 | Posted by: Gwen & Jeff Sobiech - New Brirain, CT

“Sorry to hear about your dad, Liz. ”
12 of 16 | Posted by: Chris Rutsch - Avon, CT

“Cheryl and Family,Very sorry to here of Mel's passing. He was a great mentor and friend to me.I will miss him.Our thoughts and prayers are with you...Read More »
13 of 16 | Posted by: Mike Patrizzi - East Granby, CT

“Our prayers and condolences are with you and family during this sad time. You will reap joys from reading/study of the Bible as experienced in your...Read More »
14 of 16 | Posted by: Marie Gondek - Unionville, CT

“Barnum Family, sorry about the loss of your love the bible offer comfort at Hosea 13:14. ”
15 of 16 | Posted by: R.P - IL

“Dear Cheryl and family,My husband John and I worked with Mel at TPM for several years. We will all miss him. My thoughts are prayers are with you...Read More »
16 of 16 | Posted by: Joanne (John) O'Briant - CT

Bethuel Melvin “Mel” Barnum Jr., 78, of Avon, passed away on September 12, 2017. Born in Kingston, NY, Mel was the beloved son of the late Anna Elizabeth and Bethuel Melvin Barnum, Sr., and a graduate of Kerhonkson High School, Kerhonkson, NY. During summers, he worked at the Nevele in Ellenville, NY. He was a proud Fort Schuyler graduate having earned a Bachelor of Science in Marine Engineering at Maritime College of the State University of New York. He shipped out on the S.S. United States as a 3rd Assistant Engineer and was a LTJG in the United States Merchant Marine Reserve. He had a career spanning five decades and across the globe as an engineer at Hercules Powder, Pratt & Whitney, Turbo Power & Marine, and Wood Group. He loved his profession and continued to work well past his retirement. He always used to say he “rarely met a person he didn’t like.” Mel experienced great joy reuniting with longtime classmates, friends and family at school and family reunions. He was an active longtime member of the West Avon Congregational Church. His hobbies included sailing, skiing, and soaring, all of which gave him a sense of pleasure. Mel is survived by his loving wife of nearly 25 years, Cheryl Bellus Barnum, his sons Erik Christopher (Jil) Barnum and Andrew Costas Bethuel (Jessica) Barnum, and his daughter Rev. Elizabeth Barnum; grandchildren, Christopher Thomas, Alexandria Marie, Nico Stephan Bethuel, and Maxmilien Robert Costas; brothers John (Lois) Barnum, Charles (Dottie) Barnum, Bob (Priscilla) Barnum and countless beloved family and friends. He was predeceased by his son Per Thomas Barnum, his previous wife Christine Basdekis Barnum, and former wife Turi Førsund. A Memorial Service will be held at 2:00 PM on Saturday, September 16, 2017 at the West Avon Congregational Church, 280 Country Club Road, Avon. Burial will be private in West Avon Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to the West Avon Congregational Church, 280 Country Club Road, Avon, CT 06001. The Carmon Funeral Home & Family Center is caring for the arrangements.